The First Four Minutes When do people decide whether or not they want to become friends During their first four minutes together, according to a book by Dr. Leonard Zunin. In his book, Contact: The first four minutes, he offers this advice to anyone interested in starting new friendships: 1 A lot of people’s whole lives would change if they did just that. You may have noticed that average person does not give his undivided attention to someone he has just met. 2 If anyone has ever done this to you, you probably did not like him very much. When we are introduced to new people, the author suggests, we should try to appear friendly and self-confident. In general, he says, "People like people who like themselves." On the other hand, we should not make the other person think we are too sure of ourselves. It is important to appear interested and sympathetic, realizing that the other person has his own needs, fears, and hopes. Hearing such advice, one might say, "But I’m not a friendly, self-confident person. That’s not my nature. It would be dishonest for me to act that way." 3 We can become accustomed to any changes we choose to make in our personality. "It is like getting used to a new car. It may be unfamiliar at first, but it goes much better than the old one." But isn’t it dishonest to give the appearance of friendly self-confidence when we don’t actually feel that way Perhaps, but according to Dr. Zunin, "total honest" is not always good for social relationships, especially during the first few minutes of contact. There is a time for everything, and a certain amount of play-acting may be best for the first few minutes of contact with a stranger. That is not the time to complain about one’s health or to mention faults one finds in other people. It is not the time to tell the whole truth about one’s opinions and impressions. 4 For a husband and wife or a parent and child, problems often arise during their first four minutes together after they have been apart. Dr. Zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care. If there are unpleasant matters to be discussed, they should be dealt with later. The author says that interpersonal relations should be taught as a required course in every school, along with reading, writing, and mathematics. 5 . That is at least as important as how much we know. A. In reply, Dr. Zunin would claim that a little practice can help us feel comfortable about changing our social habits. B. Much of what has been said about strangers also applies to relationships with family members and friends. C. In his opinion, success in life depends mainly on how we get along with other people. D. Every time you meet someone in a social situation, give him your undivided attention for four minutes. E. He keeps looking over the other person’s shoulder, as if hoping to find someone more interesting in another part of the room. F. He is eager to make friends with everyone.
Man of Few Words Everyone chases success, but not all of us want to be famous. South African writer John Maxwell Coetzee is 1 for keeping himself to himself. When the 63-year-old was named the 2003 Nobel Prize winner for literature earlier this month, reporters were warned that they would find him "particularly difficult to 2 ". Coetzee lives in Australia but spends part of the year teaching at the University of Chicago. He seemed 3 by the news he won the $1.3 million prize. "It came as a complete surprise. I wasn’t even aware they were due to make the announcement," he said. His 4 of privacy led to doubts as to whether Coetzee will attend the prize-giving in Stockholm, Sweden, on December 10. But despite being described as 5 to track down, we critics agree that his writing is easy to get to know. Born in Cape Town, South Africa, to all English-speaking family, Coetzee 6 his breakthrough in 1980 with the novel Waiting for the Barbarians. He 7 his place among the world’s leading writers with two Booker prize victories, Britain’s highest honour for novels. He first 8 in 1983 for the Life and Times of Michael K and his second title came in 1999 for Disgrace. A major theme in his work is South Africa’s former apartheid system, which divided whites from blacks. 9 with the problems of violence, crime and racial division that still exist in the country, his books have enabled ordinary people to understand apartheid 10 within. "I have always been more interested in the past than the future," he said in a rare interview. "The past 11 its shadow over the present. I hope I have made one or two people think 12 about whether they want to forget the past completely." In fact this purity in his writing seems to be 13 in his personal life. Coetzee is a vegetarian, a cyclist rather than a motorist and doesn’t drink alcohol. But what he has 14 to literature, culture and the people of South Africa is far greater than the things he has given up. "In looking at weakness and failure in life," the Nobel prize judging panel said, "Coetzee’s work 15 the divine spark in man."
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