Emily M. Brown Hurt and humiliated, betrayed partners feel justified in taking immediate action. But certain actions cannot be undone. People make a mistake by rushing out to get a divorce lawyer or telling their friends about the disloyalty. For example, if you tell your family about your partner’s disloyalty and you remain together, you’ll face a double hurdle: mending your marital relationship and the relationship between your partner and your family, who will make your partner angry for hurting you. During this phase I advise the betrayed partner to slow down and keep from overreacting. If you want to save your marriage, your best move is to wait for your head to clear. Shirley Zussman Other betrayed partners established a position of moral superiority. Some wives bring up their husband’s affair ten years after it’s over. They use the affair as a weapon for self- justification. The idea is: "This is such a bad person, I’m a saint to live with him." Unfortunately, this attitude makes it impossible to repair your relationship and move on. Park Ridge As a woman slid into the passenger side of her husband’s car, she discovered in the seat a bottle of pills prescribed to another woman. Turning to her husband of 30 years, she asked, "What’s this I don’t know." he muttered. Eventually, he confessed that he was involved with the stranger. The wife was hurt, and in the following weeks demanded to know details of his love affair: how he had met the woman, where they had made love, what girls he had given her. He finally answered all her questions truthfully. At first I held back because I was afraid of hurting her. But when I got caught in a lie, it made everything worse. Dr. Pittman Before healing can occur, the betrayer must end the affair. For some this is extremely difficult, for an affair gives them an emotional high and seems to be a quick fix for their problems. Hot, forbidden sex is sex without responsibility. You change partners instead of changing life circumstances. Such sex is never a long-term cure. Idealized, romantic affairs are based on illusion rather than reality, and illusion is difficult to maintain. The betrayer can imagine his lover has all the qualities his partner lacks. But true intimacy is based on genuine mutual understanding and the ability to acknowledge and accept each other’s flaws and weakness. Seifer Most couples are hurt by disloyalty. As a result, no healing can take place until you acknowledge your wrongdoing and ask for forgiveness. Otherwise, your partner will remain angry--and suspect that you will start again. Admitting guilt can be particularly difficult for betrayers who blame their partners for their disloyalty. But having an affair has little to do with how good your marriage or sex life is. A person can’t be driven to have an affair. Pointing the finger at your partner may help relieve your own guilt, but it will cause even more trouble on your marriage. By working through the problems that cause the disloyalty, you can save your relationship. Now match each of the persons (16 to 20) to the appropriate statement. Note: there are two extra statements.A. Keep secrets.B. Face reality.C. Stop fighting fire with fire.D. Avoid doing something abrupt.E. Expect things to be the same.F. Tell the truth.G. Admit you were wron Emily M. Brown
Over 60 million persons in the United States own a credit card, which has had the effect of increasing consumption possibilities for households by allowing them to make heavy purchases without giving up a single dollar and coin for than. In fact, thousands of dollars of merchandise, ranging from autos, clothing, to electrical appliances are purchased by buyers through the credit card. Credit cards have also been of significant importance to the national economy. Businessmen have been encouraged to expand plant and equipment and hire additional personnel to meat the heavy demand for their products. The tendency of employ-merit and income would be to rise significantly. Unfortunately, the ease with which buyers can increase their purchase with credit cards have caused them to overlook the additional costs. Purchases on credit cards are postponed payments. Buy-now-and-pay-later encourages buyers to use credit cards extensively. Since the buyer is in effect borrowing money for a specific purpose, he must expect to pay an interest change. Interest is the price of using money over a long period of time. A close analysis of the use of credit cards for heavy purchases will show that the buyer has added to the cost of making these purchases, it must also be kept in mind that unpaid monthly balance means added interest charges. Furthermore, the use of credit cards will add to the cost of the product since the shopkeeper does not receive the money at the time of purchase. Shopkeeper might add on the cost of handing credits to the bill. When a buyer makes a purchase by credit cards, the problem encountered by him is ______.
A. the changing tendency of interest rates
B. the rise of the price of products
C. the rise in insurance rates when credit cards lost
D. the added cost of a product
"Is jazz a kind of folk music Is it a performing style How is it different from other kinds of music" There is no simple answer to these questions, because the most important quality of jazz comes from its unique combination of different musical sources over a period of almost 400 years. The quality that unites the many different jazz forms is, in some degree, separate from its musical sources. That quality is the expression of freedom. The idea of freedom is central. The ancestors of jazz were black people from West Africa who were brought to America as slaves, or forced laborers, from the early 1600s to the mid-1800s. Most of them remained slaves until President Lincoln set them free on January 1, 1863, at the midpoint of the American Civil War. With the less of their personal freedom and the breaking up of their families, the slaves also borrowed the social traditions of their music from Africa. The complex rhythms of this music involved a number of people performing together. The breaking apart of these social groups forced slaves to create new songs--that is, to develop a completely new musical tradition. Using some of the remembered African rhythms, the slaves gradually began to add some features of the European classical music that was played by the white slave owners. The slaves were also influenced by American folk songs. But the result of adding these borrowed elements to the complex African rhythms was the beginning of a completely new kind of music. Still, this music only existed privately among groups of slaves. The slaves’ work had another effect on their music. It introduced new kinds of music rhythms. Some of these rhythms became work songs to accompany their planting end picking of cotton. Other rhythms were developed by teams of workers who needed to lift heavy loads of cotton onto carts that passed through the fields. Later, during the building of the railroads, individual workers created new songs to match the sharp rhythms of steel striking, as they fixed the rails into place. The main musical sources used by file slaves to develop a new kind of music were ______.
A. folk music, jazz music, and modem music
B. classical music, American rhythms, and African folk songs
C. african music, European classical music, and American folk music
D. slave’s work songs rhythms of lifting heavy loads, and sounds of steel striking
B 根据下面短文回答下列问题。 A dog was carrying a bone (骨头) in his mouth one day. Coming to a river, he looked for a bridge. As he was crossing the bridge, he looked down. On the water he saw his reflection (倒影). He thought it was another dog with a bone in its mouth. To drive the other dog away, he barked at it. When he opened his mouth the bone fell into the water. The ripples made the reflection disappear. He believed then that the other dog had taken his bone and had run away with it. Finally the dog realized the dog in the water was actually his own reflection.
A. [A] True
B. False